Self-esteem is not something that babies are born with naturally, it has to develop over time as they get older. Self-esteem is important in a child’s life because it provides them with proper confidence. Children are always developing new skills as they grow older, it is important for you as a parent or as a teacher to recognize those achievements and admire them. First of all, parents play a huge part in self-esteem, they are one of the main things that determine if a child’s self-esteem is high, or low. There are many influences that can affect children’s self-esteem including their parents, teachers, friends, and society. Self-esteem affects individuals throughout their life as they are developing. And that is why it is important to have a strong relationship and healthy self-esteem in child’s life. Secondly, at school having self-esteem allows children to improve on their academic skills and social skills. Self-esteem is a child also gives them the opportunity to be social. This gives them the chance to make new friends. But when children lack self-esteem their academic skill and social skills cannot be improved on. This means when a child lacks self-esteem, they would not have the confidence to participate as much as kids who do, because they fear that they might get the answer wrong or they’ are not good enough for the activity. Therefore, this causes children to have low self-esteem. However, in the classroom teachers want every child to have the confidence to participate and be involved in the discussion. They need to have a self-esteem in order to participate in classroom discussions and activities. Third of all, there are many cases where children are not confident and insecure because they experienced low self-esteem at home or school. Toddlers and infants are very fragile because they are still growing and learning. When they are experiencing low self-esteem and anxiety, this can disturb them in the future.
Positive : First of all, children pick up their first instructions about self-esteem from their parents. However, there are positive and negative sides that parents can affect children’s self-esteem. First of all, when we discuss the positive outcomes, it is very important to give your child a healthy environment while they are growing up. As a parent giving them positive and encouraging advice gives them support and confidence outside in the social life. How you react to your child emotionally is important, because children look up to their teacher’s and parent’s when they are developing. For example, before bedtime it is a good idea to talk about great family moments where children may open up and talk about some of their fears, worries and anxieties. Because young children need all the support that they can get to have a good self-esteem. Every so often, it can be a challenge to the teachers and parents to manifest itself differently in different children. As they grow older it is important for as a parent or teacher to praise them as they learn how to walk, write their name’s or learn to swim across the swimming pool, these are all big milestones. These are the significant moments to recognize and to celebrate those only help to promote positive and healthy self-esteem. In order to have a positive self-esteem children need love and appreciation come in the form of words such as saying, “I love you” or actually a pat on the back modeling behavior. Also, communication is very important and respecting their opinions. Children need to hear that they are doing well and being cared by their family or friends. Moreover, set them guidelines and structures just like at school so that they can practice as well at home. For example, asking for their help setting up the dinner table. This will definitely give them self-esteem and self-confidence. Children love to feel that they are part of something and that you trust them. As a parent or a teacher always point out things they accomplished because sometimes children do not recognize the tings they accomplished. Always show them how to value and appreciate themselves to embrace their self esteem.
Negative : As a parent, there is always going to be frustrating moments in life but it is important to stay calm and positive in front of your child. For example, as a parent, if you are stressed by losing your job and unable to pay rent or buy food for the family, this can negatively affect the child. Another example, some parents make mistakes such as comparing their children to siblings or other children. This is rough for the child’s self-esteem because you are basically telling them they are not good enough and this can impact their life. Therefore, as a parent, it is important to have a self-esteem and kindness towards others because kids take in every word and action of yours. Even if you are going through tough in life, try to teach your kids how to think during complicated situations as they get older. Children love having a role model and sometimes parents and teachers forget that. When young children see a strong and confident adult with them children take notes over time. Another example, sometimes parent’s and teacher’s can psychological harm children without even noticing. When a child is in a family environment or in a activity group may feel unnoticed, worthless, and forgotten. This can affect them in a very negative way and feel alone. Therefore, it is important to show your child the right direction and comfort. It is important for your child to gain confidence and to let them know that they are capable individuals that can reach their goals. It is influential for a child to believe in themselves starting at a very young age. The more you understand the child with a low self-esteem you can put them into context and understand how to repair the child’s self-esteem.
Self-esteem at school: Children with low self-esteem most likely to have problems because they are afraid to open up to others around them. When a child has a self-esteem they would not be discouraged to participate or make new friends in the classroom, which long-term provides them a better learning experience. Moreover, it is important for a child to participate and be social in class because it shows that they believe in themselves and they feel confident. Many children in school experience negative self-esteem is described as low self-confidence, self-doubt, underachievement, nervousness, acting-out behavior and sleep problems. This can cause the child to be effortlessly afraid and unsocial at school. Some kids are scared to speak in front of their classmates because they experienced bad judgments from other people before. Also, there are many cases were a child who is mistreated at home can experience low self-esteem. For example, some children are physically abused or mentally abused at home. Unfortunately, caregivers or teachers do not notice that this is happening in a child’s life. But over time, in some cases, caregiver’s and teacher’s start noticing that child is acting differently in the classroom. However, every child experience these emotions differently. For example, some children can behave violently to seek attention or some kids behave very quietly. Children with low self-esteem can have evidence that is very noticeable all the time. For example, if a Child is crying all the time, laid headaches, unexplained belly pain and do not want to participate are some of the symptoms. Also, the child can become more distanced from his or her parents. For example, not wanting to join family dinner time with mom or dad. Sometimes, kids choose to ignore their parents and keep a distance. And as they grow older, it can get worse when there is lack of self-esteem. As a result, all the negative things that happen at home, that child carries that around throughout the day. Another example, some kids get bullied at school, such as making fun of their weight or height. Physically, low self-esteem may affect a child. In this case he or she might feel secure about themselves, physically.